Apples and Onions

I talk to single people all the time who name the name of Christ and participate in risky dating practices.  They say they love God, but are found with people who don't love God.  I used to think that it was rebellion, but then I discovered that it was desperation.  When you allow yourself to get too lonely, or too bored, or too hungry, you begin to see things that aren't all that good for you as good.  When a person has not eaten for a while, they get to a state in hunger that foods they would not ordinarily eat become appetizing.  Onions begin to taste like apples.  Once your hunger is fulfilled, they begin to despise the onion because they finally realize that it is an onion.  That is how dating becomes toxic.  If you date someone that you know you aren't going to marry, you end up being more hurt than if you would have left them alone in the first place.  For the most part, it is the unbeliever who is played like a fiddle by a believer, who will satisfy their hunger for love only to pester the poor person into coming to a church they don't like or serving a God they don't understand.  It is the believer who gets the heart entangled and then say to the unbeliever, if you love me then you would get saved.  No one should come to Christ that way.  Christ should not be dangled like a carrot on a stick for you to lure a potential mate.  God did not create anything greater than himself.  Your body should not leave you hurting people like that.  Your longing for companionship should not imprison someone from making an independent decision.  Wisdom says that one day, the person you lured will see you for who you are.  They will understand that Christ was not your total Lord and you will be just as manipulative as unsaved partners are.  Once that happens, then you will be the one chasing the carrot on the stick.  Who wants to live like that.