This, That and a third.

Something was said to me about being a black woman and I have yet to form a response, but I know the response will not be recieved well.  It is the response that black women can't find black men because there is something wrong with them.  I won't argue on those grounds, but you have to bring in some truth and let it speak for itself.  Roughly a third of black men are in prison.  Roughly a third are unemployed.  Roughly a third are ready for marriage.  This leaves about two thirds of all black men being unprepared for marriage.  Black women seem to prefer black men and don't date outside of their race often.  I have never had that inclination.  Color is not as important as religion.  I simply ask that before we compare apples and oranges, that we acknowledge the lack of enough oranges to make the Holiday punch.  There aren't enough black men for black women.  Black women are often told that we have to work with our men and are trained to marry beneath ourselves to be happy.  No one says that there are plenty of working white men who would love to love a sister, if she would give him a chance.  Instead of compromiseing on marrying someone who is on his third wife and struggling with employment, find a better man and compromise of the color of his skin.  Love does not have to hurt, nor leave you humiliated.