Pursue Me

Some relationships are not compatible neither are they equal and that is just the way God planned it.  Lately, I have been thinking about the Songs of Solomon.  The Songs of Solomon are a musical of sorts about love and finding love.  There is no mention of God in the book despite pious Christians trying to place him there.  It is a simple story of a King in love with a Shulamite woman while she is hopelessly in love with a shepherd boy.  Today, I thought about the beginning of the story.  It seems that she is chasing the shepherd boy who is being a shepherd boy.  His occupation is that of wandering from pasture to pasture with his flock.  His companions are those whom he works with, with the exception of this Shulamite woman.  She complains that she has to wander to find him like a prostitute.  He  responds with flattery, but never addresses the wandering.  I don't know why human beings settle for trying to impress someone who is not as impressed with you as it seems.  His aloofness is seen in other places in the Canticles.  He grows serious to come and get her after she is taken into the Kings harem.  The art of love is the art of pursuit.  That pursuit is on the part of the male.  The woman has the art of refusal.  In today's time, the woman is pursuing and the man is waiting to see just what you would do to get him.  I believe that a woman who will do anything for a man will also do anything to keep a man.  As hard as she had to work to get him will be the level of work she will have to do to keep him.  It sets up the kind of relationship where you will always be giving more than you can take.  When the man pursues, he is a natural hunter and there is reward in getting the woman he wanted.  He does not mind hunting because he has the nature to do so.  My first lesson from this book is one of balance.  If you are a woman, allow yourself to be pursued.  If you are a man, get busy.  Don't allow the woman to become a gift horse.  You should be a gift to her and not the other way around.  She should be your prize and not your sugar mama.  In this age, many men are raised by single women in the black community and therefore, they are used to sucking off of women for their daily needs.  It is foreign to them that they are going to have to provide for their families.  I avoid these men because I have raised other folks children and it wasn't as glamorous as the church folk will tell you it was.  I want to be pursued.  I deserve to be pursued and I will be pursued.