Experience.

Experience teaches you a lot of things.  I can remember when I was young and stupid.  I thought I had the world figured out.  I thought it would work out just like I had imagined it in my ideal state.  I would marry, have 2.5 children, a house with a white picket fence and a dog named Spot.  Little did I know that a day would come when I would cry uncontrollably over the fact that none of those things would be mine at the age I thought it would happen.  Even sadder, was the day I realized that some of it would never happen.  My hair thinned.  Menapause loomed over my head.  My bed was empty and so was my womb.  That was a hard crash.  I was devastated.  This was the thing that tempered me and took me off cloud nine into some reality.  I had to learn to be happy a whole new way.  I didn't think I could be happy a whole new way, but I did.  I learned that an amazing sun still shined on my empty days.  I learned that I can still laugh from the pit of my stomach.  I learned to find people to help me be the best I can be and I lived the life I never thought I would live.  Experience does that to you.  If your at this abyss, don't jump off the cliff.  I guarantee that it gets.............better.